I don’t think I know all the answers yet, but hopefully I know a little more than you. Either that, or I just blew £9000 in a most incredibly boring fashion…. I will go back in stages of years, so do try to keep up. You have this tendency to think that you don’t need to listen, and that you’re always right. Don’t worry, that bit is still prevalent….
Listen to people. People that teach you, people that tolerate you as a friend, even your mother. Listen when people say that you excel at something, or that this is an area where you could really shine. Whether you think so or not, you are not the minority; you do want to be part of something truly aspirational. The only way that you can exist in this way is if you follow something that you feel utterly passionate about.
Don’t rush. You will spend so long chasing things or worrying that events are in the wrong order that you will forget altogether to enjoy this time in your life. It doesn’t matter about where all the big moments are, because it will be the small moments that you remember the most. You don’t remember the day you went out for graduation, but you remember the way your baby’s hair smells. You don’t remember moving day, but you remember how it feels to hold hands. Stop trying to grasp onto memories, or fretting about the ones you haven’t made yet, because you already have so many beautiful ones.
Do not worry about what others think of you. If you make that central to all that you do, life will be miserable. Their opinion only matters if they hold your respect, and their opinion is justified. Beyond that, it just doesn’t matter. More so, any negativity is not worth the breath to discuss.
Develop your ability to display contentment. You have only mastered this very recently, and it still shifts from your view, but once you have experienced the emotion of contentment, you will realise that it is irrelevant as to how you reached it, but that you have succeeded in getting there. To be content is to really appreciate what you have and the people that you have allowed yourself to be surrounded by. Beyond that, you have learned to be content with yourself, not in spite of your flaws but because of your recognition of them. You are you because of all the elements of you, beautiful and otherwise! Your ugly bits are what draw people to you; to show vulnerability just makes you normal.
Celebrate. Celebrate your successes, other people’s successes, allow yourself to to take the time to give yourself the time to realise your achievements. It’s fantastic to constantly challenge yourself and reach beyond what you have already managed to achieve, but you must stop to look around along the way every now and then.
Lastly, remember that you are only human. You don’t have to be the best of the best all of the time. You don’t even need to try to be. Sometimes you can just be you.